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September 2007 - Respect
October 2007 - Responsibility
November 2007 - Citizenship
December 2007 - Caring
January 2008 - Fairness
February 2008 - Trustworthiness
March 2008 - Respect
April 2008 - Responsibility
May 2008 - Citizenship
 
RESPECT

Quote of the Month: If you have some respect for people as they are, you can be more effective in helping them to become better than they are. - John W. Gardner

The Golden Rule

A key part of the Respect Pillar is the Golden Rule which challenges us to treat others the way we want to be treated. Take a look at a few variations of this universal principle. See if you can find any more to add to this list.

Aristotle: We should behave to others as we wish others to behave to us.
Buddhism: Hurt not others with that which pains thyself.
Christianity: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Confucius: What you do not want done to yourself, do not do unto others.
Hinduism: Do nothing to thy neighbor which thou wouldst not have him do to thee thereafter.
Islam: Love for your brother what you love for yourself.
Judaism: What you dislike for yourself, do not do to anyone.

RESPECT - From the Inside Out

Want to know what your kids are thinking about Respect? Ask your students or children these three questions: How does Respect look? How does it sound? How does it feel? Then get ready for a riveting discussion. Don't judge their answers as right or wrong, rather follow up with something like, "I wonder what you mean by that?" or "it's interesting that you feel that way; tell me more." Then ask yourself the three questions and share your answers with them. After the discussion, you can recite this little poem together, using hand-jive motions if you'd like: R-E-S-P-E-C-T, you've got to give it, to get it, yeah, that's the key! We live by the Golden Rule, you see, at Westwood Elementary (or "in the Gruener (replace with your last name) family).

Respect Reflections

Read these dilemmas aloud. Have your children discuss what they might do to show respect, then have them write a dilemma or two of their own.

1. Jimmy is making jokes about his classmate, Tatiana, because she's from a different country. Though Tatiana can't hear him, Jimmy's friends can and they know it's disrespectful to make fun of someone and their culture. If you were one of Jimmy's friends, what would you do to show respect?

2. Amy and Jake are working on a project in computer class. In the middle of their research, the computer screen goes blank and they lose all their information. Jake gets mad and starts pounding on the keyboard. What could Amy do to help Jake show respect for the school's equipment?

3. Sarah's parents told her that she cannot get on the internet when they're not home. While Sienna is visiting, she suggests they play these fun new games that she just discovered on the internet. Sienna argues that no one will find out since Sarah's parents won't be home for a while. What should Sarah do to make sure that she shows respect for her parents and their rules?

4. Some second-grade boys are playing basketball during recess. One boy, Ryan, keeps stealing the ball away from his friends so he can shoot a basket. He also pushes other kids out of his way while he's dribbling. What might you suggest to help Ryan show respect for his playmates?

5. One hot afternoon after recess, Katy is about to get in line for her drink of water. She is very thirsty, but her whole class is in front of her. Katy sees her best friend, Cindy, near the front of the line. Cindy motions to Katy to cut in line ahead of her. What can Katy do to show respect for the other students in line?

6. Joshua and his friend Jeremy are having a picnic outside. Joshua sees that a piece of Jeremy's trash fell on the ground and is starting to blow onto the playground. What do you think Joshua will do to show respect for the environment?

Building Character by the Book

An engaging illustrated picture book can go a long way in enriching your character-building efforts.  Check out this book to teach respect and tolerance to children of any age.

Hey, Little Ant by Phillip and Hannah Hoose
Tricycle Press:  Berkeley, CA

Simple Synopsis:  The story begins when a Child threatens to step on an Ant, citing its insignificance in the Child's world.  Before squishing it, however, the Child allows the Ant it plead its case, giving the reader a chance to hear both sides so that an impartial decision can be made.  Through a clever dialogue, the Child and the Ant negotiate their differences.  The open-ended story line challenges children to decide for themselves the Ant's fate.

To simply read Hey, Little Ant aloud would be an injustice to this clever masterpiece.  It lends itself so nicely to acting that it can so easily be brought to life in a classroom or in a family room.  Solicit a child to volunteer to be the Ant and lie on the ground.  Get another child to play the Child's role and simply stand over the Ant with his shoe raised as if to squish it.  Then read the book aloud using a know-it-all voice to portray the Kid and a smaller voice for the Ant's part.  (With the musical notations in the back of the book, you can also sing the words if you'd like.)

Following the reading, begin a discussion of the book with the following questions:

1.  Are the Child and the Ant equal?  Why or why not?
2.  Would it be fair for the Child to squish the Ant?
3.  If they were to trade places, would the Ant squish the Child?  Why or why not?
4.  Are there people in your life that might treat you like a little Ant?  
5.  Can you share a time when that might have happened?  What did you do?
6.  What can you do when someone tries to make you feel smaller than they are?
7.  What can you do to make sure that you do not treat others like little Ants?
8.  Do you think that the Kid should squish the Ant?
9.  What if the Ant were a Mosquito?  Bumble Bee?  Snake?  Other insect or animal?

Ask for additional questions or comments before using the following activities for follow-up and enrichment:

1.  From Whose Point of View?

Every one has an opinion that is his/her point of view.  This book can serve as an excellent opportunity to teach children about their point of view and where opinions and points of view come from.  It can also springboard a lesson to guide children to base their opinions or points of view on the Six Pillars of Character.

Divide your students by viewpoint - one group for students who can see and share the Kid's point of view and the other group for students who can see and share the Ant's point of view.  Ask the following questions to facilitate a debate:

1.  Why do you think that the Child should squish the Ant?
2.  Why do you think that the Child should not squish the Ant?
3.  If the Child does squish the Ant, what might happen next?
4.  If the Child lets the Ant go, then what might happen?
5.  Could the Child actually be friends with the Ant?  How?

Using the Six Pillars of Character as a guide, help students share their points of view on other topics.  Use recycling, for example, or volunteering.  Give them a statement like "Everybody should recycle" and have them share their opinions.  Prompt their responses by asking questions about citizenship, responsibility, and caring.  To further illustrate point of view, have the students draw something from different points of view.  For example, how would a pencil look if you were an Ant?  What does your town look like to a bird?  You could also have them draw three views of their toothbrush.

2.  What Happens Next? Writing Activity

Individually or in small groups of 3 or 4, have the children continue the dialogue between the Child and the Ant by writing the next two verses.  This will allow them to take a look at their sense of justice, fairness, and equality as they decide in which direction the ending should go.  Help them with the rhyme as needed.

3.  Decisions, Decisions

Using the chalkboard or large flip-chart paper, make two columns for the group to see.  Write the word Squish at the top of the left-hand column and Don't Squish at the top of the right-hand column.  Using the book, ask the students to help review the arguments that the Child and the Ant used.  For example, the Child was powerful or bigger, so you write big/powerful in the Squish column. The Ant contends that, while he might be small, for an Ant, he's important to his community, so write important in the Don't Squish column.

Continue this until you have listed all of the points they make.  Then have the children assign a smiley face to points that they see as important or good (pros) and a frowny face to points that they deem unimportant (cons).  Encourage students to discuss and negotiate for each smile or frown.  For example - some might think that being powerful is important while others might not share that opinion.  Allow students to explain why they think powerful is or isn?t worth a smiley face. Prompt them to think about their decisions using the Six Pillars of Character as a guide:  Is it fair to use your size to take advantage of someone who is smaller or weaker? When they list that all of the Kid's friends are doing it, ask questions like:  should we allow our friends to pressure us into doing something, or is it better to stand up for what we believe?  Does the Kid should integrity if he allows peer pressure from his friends to help him make his decision?  When they list the fact that the Ant is needed to help feed nest mates, ask what does the Ant's argument say about its loyalty to family and its part as a citizen of the Ant community?  Try to get a consensus or take a vote as this will show the students visually how to make solid decisions as a team.

At the end of the brainstorming session, look at the smiley faces for what seems important or good.  Whichever column has the most smiley faces is usually the better choice.

Explain that sometimes with decisions there is not a simple answer or clear choice.  This strategy can be a useful way to try to make decisions clearer and easier.  To extend this lesson, have the students think of a time that they had a tough decision to make and have them sketch out on their papers what the two sides were and what the smiley faces and frowny faces about the two sides were.  Have them share with the class or a partner.

4.  Bully Busters

In the Ant's world, the Kid would be considered a bully.  Bullies tease and threaten other people because of their differences like size, accent, skin color, nationality, religious beliefs, socioeconomic status, intelligence, or even their character and the values that they hold dear.  People of character stand up for who they are and what they believe it and wear their character like a badge of honor with pride.  Use this opportunity for a discussion about bullying with questions like these:

1.  Have you ever bullied anyone?  Can you explain when and what happened?
2.  Talk about a time you were bullied.  Was the bully bigger than you?  Older?
3.  What are some differences that bullies target?
4.  What can you do if you are being bullied?
5.  Would it be considered tattling if you reported bullying to an adult?  Would this help?
6.  What is it about our differences that can be so scary?
7.  What can you do to make someone?s differences less frightening?

Reinforce the Golden Rule and remind students how the Ant used it to plead for its life.  Encourage them to adopt the Golden Rule as their personal motto.  Teach them that people ought to judge others by what's on the inside (their character) rather than by what they see on the outside (weight, skin color) and that we should value and honor all people from all walks of life. 

 

Character Counts at Westwood! One pillar at a time, we are laying the foundation for a lifetime of good character choices. It is our goal to build 'value-able' citizens who will eventually become tomorrow's leaders. The Six Pillars of Character are integrated into everything we do.

We hope that the following list will help you acquaint yourself with the Pillars and what they encompass so that you can help us by reinforcing them at home.

Westwood Pledge

I will make good choices today.

I will respect myself, my teachers, and others.

And give my best effort in all I do.

 
Trustworthiness  February / August
Trustworthy students. . . . . 
  • are honest; don't deceive, cheat, or steal.
  • are reliable and do what they say they'll do.
  • have the courage to do the right thing.
  • have a good reputation.
  • are loyal - stand by their family, friends and country. 
Respect September / March
Respectful students. . . . . 
  • treat others with respect, follow the Golden Rule.
  • are tolerant of differences.
  • use good manners, not bad language.
  • are considerate of the feelings of others.
  • don't threaten, hit or hurt anyone.
  • deal peacefully with anger, insults and disagreements. 
Responsibility  October / April
Responsible students. . . . . 
  • do what they're supposed to do.
  • persevere and keep on trying!
  • always do their best.
  • use self-control and are self-disciplined.
  • think before they act and consider the consequences.
  • are accountable for their choices. 
Fairness  January / July
Fair students. . . . . 
  • play by the rules, take turns and share.
  • are open minded and listen to others.
  • don't take advantage of others.
  • don't blame others carelessly. 
Caring  December /J une
Caring students. . . . . 
  • are kind and compassionate and show they care.
  • express gratitude.
  • forgive others.
  • help people in need. 
Citizenship  November / May
Good Citizens. . . . . 
  • do their share to make their school and community better.
  • cooperate.
  • stay informed and vote.
  • are good neighbors.
  • obey laws and rules and respect authority.
  • protect the environment.  

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